Jesus said to love God and love others. Loving others means spending time with them, and that involves a lot of communication. If you are insecure about talking with others or even being around others, this can cause frustration or a sense of failure as you try to love others, but don’t quite feel sure about yourself when you’re around them. If you are so caught up in yourself and how you are being perceived, it will make it difficult for you to take your eyes off of yourself to love, accept, and help others.
So, in order to be effective in loving others, we must learn how to communicate well with others.
Here are 5 steps to great communication skills:
1. Body language – smile, act “comfortable” and relaxed, hold a good posture.
2. Ask questions – people love talking about themselves, so when you ask a person questions about their work, family, weekend ect. it makes them feel like you’re really interested in their life, and they are more than happy to answer! Try to remember what a person talked to you about the last time you were together, then make a point to ask them about it the next time you see them.
3. Listen with facial expressions – while a person is talking to you, act interested! Smile, nod your head, look them in the eye. These are all forms of expression that will let the person know you are interested in them and what they have to say. Avoid looking around the room or glancing at your phone while you’re in a conversation.
4. Relate and Respond – as valuable as asking questions is, nobody wants to feel like they’re being interviewed. When the person is finished talking, relate to what they have said and respond with a similar story or situation of your own.
5. Offer suggestions if wanted – some people love hearing advice from people, and others get very defensive when advice is offered. You probably know your family and friends well enough to know how they respond to advice. If advice is genuinely wanted, then offer a suggestion or advice to their situation. Just make sure you really understand the person’s circumstances before jumping to conclusions and offering advice that might just backfire.
Jesus surrounded himself with many people while he was on earth. He had the best communication skills of all! What we see in Jesus is that he was always interested in who he was with, and where their hearts were at the moment. He sought to give, serve, and love them.
Notice that Jesus often withdrew himself from people as well. After a busy day of serving hundreds of people, he would remove himself to be alone and pray. If you are an introvert this is refreshing news! It is okay to withdraw from people so you can recharge and re-energize. Just watch your heart and make sure you’re not just avoiding people for the sake of laziness or selfishness.
A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you,
you also are to love one another.
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