Actions Speak Louder than Words in Marriage

Welcome to this week’s series: Supporting Your Husband in a Positive Way!

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Dear Cooking Up Faith,

I am really struggling in my marriage right now, but my husband has no idea. To him everything is fine. I am the one struggling. We have been married 15 years and I just don’t feel the spark that I used to feel. We’ve had some financial problems and I resent the way he has handled money in our marriage. It’s hard for me to continue being positive and supportive when I really don’t agree with how he manages our money. I’ve tried talking to him but nothing ever changes. Should I keep being supportive when my husband isn’t being responsible??

I received this letter from a reader recently. You know, finances is one of the main reasons for marital conflict and divorce, and it’s not even a lack of money, but a disagreement in how money is handled. One spouse is frugal and watches what is spent, while the other spouse spends money like there’s no tomorrow. We feel disrespected when this happens. We feel like all our hard work and efforts to be responsible must mean nothing. It can cause a real resentment and bitterness, and make it extremely hard to be supportive and positive…especially when we feel our partner doesn’t deserve it.

I know a couple who had extreme opposite spending habits. The wife was a stay at home mom and watched every penny she spent. She felt like since she didn’t “work” and earn money she should not spend as much money as possible. Her husband spent money on new t.v.s, new work clothes, and ate out frequently for business. It seemed like when he wanted something he had no problem spending any amount of money, and often justified it because it was for work…or something he liked to have to relax from work! The wife complained, gave the cold shoulder, nagged for months and years, but nothing ever changed. So, she finally surrendered one day and decided to hand her husband’s spending habits over to the Lord. She stopped nagging, stopped complaining, and continued to watch what she spent. She didn’t clap her hands and jump up and down with excitement over her husband’s way of handling money, but she didn’t try to control him anymore either.

This is what God’s Word tells us to do – be righteous (do what’s right), support and encourage others sometimes through our actions instead of our words, and don’t complain or nag.

Take a look at these scriptures:

1. Be righteous in your marriage (do what’s right even when your spouse does not): Sow righteousness for yourselves, reap the fruit of unfailing love, and break up your unplowed ground; for it is time to seek the Lord, until he comes and showers righteousness on you. Hosea 10:12

2. Encourage your husband through your actions: Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. 1 Peter 3:1

3. Don’t complain or nag (it doesn’t work anyway!): A leak that keeps dripping on a rainy day and the nagging of a wife are the same. Proverbs 27:15

Our husbands are human with flaws, insecurities, and failures just like our own. We can’t expect perfection out of them, and we can’t expect them to give us everything we need in a perfect package. We need to hand over our husband’s failures and faults over to the Lord, and allow Him to work a slow but constant working on his heart. Change happens from the inside out. Let the Lord work on your husband’s heart and change will come. Be patient.

You know my friend I told you about? After a while of praying for her husband instead of nagging she did see a change in him. He even broke down and told her one day how sorry he was for not handling their finances better and vowed to make a change. They are still in the process of cleaning up some poor money making decisions, but he is working hard and has made drastic changes in the way he spends money. I wonder sometimes if this turn around would have happened if my friend kept complaining, kept nagging, kept trying to control? I don’t think so. I think their story would have a very different outcome right now.

Getting revenge by falling into the same bad habits as your husband just to get even provides instant gratification…but it’s not effective.

Raising your voice instead of acting quietly provides instant gratification because you can loosen the rope of self-control a little bit…but it’s not effective.

Nagging provides instant gratification. You feel better because you let some steam off…but it’s not actually effective.

Effective = change.

If you want real change seek what is effective.God’s path of righteousness is effective. 

Your story may be the exact same. Or maybe it’s another issue besides money. Look ahead a year from now, 2 years from now…10 years from now. Believe there can be a turn around for you too. Try handing your husband and all his issues over to the Lord. Stand back and get out of the way a little bit so God can continue the good work he’s doing in your husband. Don’t you know God wants to restore and heal and prove His power? Allow Him. Let Him. Welcome Him to do that for your marriage.

Come back Wednesday for another post on Supporting Your Husband in a Positive Way!

* If there is any abuse or infidelity in your marriage please seek help and counseling. This is not a behavior you should be quiet about and allow to continue.

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Reflection and Spicy Pumpkin Latte

Today we wrap up our discussion of Praying Scripture for Your Family, Marriage, and Yourself. Just because we’re moving on to a new topic for next week doesn’t mean you have to stop praying scriptures for the people in your life or your life’s circumstances! Hopefully this is something you’ll want to continue as you discover more and more scriptures to pray in your life.

Reflection Question: What idea stood out to you the most from this week’s topic: Praying Scripture for Your Family, Marriage, and Yourself?

I personally was moved when looking into the Lord’s Prayer on Day 2 by the very familiar line:  give us this day our daily bread. When I really thought about what Jesus was saying it changed my perspective. I realized how much I need to slow down in my desires from God, and allow Him to fill me financially, emotionally, and spiritually day by day, instead of hoping He’ll give me all I need at once so I can be on my comfortable way.

Pardon for sin and a peace that endureth,
Thine own dear presence to cheer and to guide;
Strength for today and bright hope for tomorrow,
Blessings all mine, with ten thousand beside!

“Great is Thy faithfulness!” “Great is Thy faithfulness!”
Morning by morning new mercies I see;
All I have needed Thy hand hath provided—
“Great is Thy faithfulness,” Lord, unto me!

Now, for a new recipe from Heritage Schoolhouse! Fall is so fun with cooler weather, sweaters, football, and cute decorations for the home, so in honor of fall coming our way Mrs. H is here to share her Pumpkin Spice Latte with us!

Pumpkin Spice Latte

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Pumpkin Spice Latte

1 serving

1 cup milk

1 tablespoon canned pumpkin

1 tablespoon sugar

1 tablespoon vanilla (not a typo!)

1/4 teaspoon ginger

1/4 teaspoon nutmeg

1/2 teaspoon cinnamon

1/2 cup strong brewed coffee

Combine milk, pumpkin, and sugar in saucepan. Cook on medium heat, stirring until steaming. Remove from heat and stir in vanilla and spice. Transfer to a blender and process until foamy. Pour into a large mug and add coffee. Top with fresh whipped cream and a
sprinkle of cinnamon sugar. Enjoy!

You can find Mrs. H sharing stories from her farm, homemaking tips, and delicious recipes on her blog. You can follow Mrs H’s blog at Heritage Schoolhouse. Follow her on Facebook at Heritage Schoolhouse. 

* Join us here at Cooking Up Faith on Monday when we’ll start a new focus of the week: Supporting Your Husband in a Positive Way!

Praying Scripture: What and How to Pray

Welcome! Monday we kicked off this week’s focus of Praying Scripture for Your Family and Yourself.

Today we are going to dig a little deeper on that topic, and motivate you to keep praying those scriptures over your family, yourself, and your circumstances. We hope you’ve enjoyed choosing scriptures for your family members and writing them on index cards!

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On Monday we discussed when we pray scripture we are coming into agreement with God’s will and very thoughts. Today we are going to look at what Jesus had to say about how to approach prayer, from Luke 11.

We see at the beginning of Luke 11 Jesus is praying Himself in a “certain place.” His disciples witness Jesus praying and ask Him to teach them how to pray. Jesus responded to His disciples with what to pray and how to pray.

What: Jesus gave these words on what to pray. Let’s look at this familiar prayer and break down what Jesus was telling His disciples and us:

Father, hallowed be your name: Hallowed means “sanctified; consecrated; highly venerated; to hallow is “to make or set apart as holy. To respect or honor greatly; revere.” When we start our prayer, may we start with a humble heart in deep respect and honor to the One we are speaking to. These aren’t just our thoughts floating into space. We are communicating with the very One who offered hope and promise through His Word and has the authority to carry them out.

Your kingdom come: The kingdom of God is God’s rule and authority over all things. So when we say “your kingdom come,” we are saying your rule, your authority, God, I acknowledge over anything I bring to You in prayer. May we realize as we pray that we are welcome to bring our petitions and requests before God, but with the understanding that He has the perfect authority and rule over what the answer and outcome should be.

Give us each day our daily bread: This is the first request in the Lord’s Prayer for ourselves. Jesus said “each day,” meaning let us come to God for our daily physical and spiritual needs for that day, not in a big lump supply that will get us through the week, months, or even years. This broadens our awareness of our dependence on God as a daily need for His provision and presence…something He longs for from us. Adam and Eve would walk with God in the cool of the day. He enjoys spending time with us and as we receive from God our daily physical and spiritual needs it’s as if we are taking slow walks with Him in peace…not in rush. It becomes a relationship. It becomes a longing and desire for more of Him as we little by little receive what we need from Him.

Forgive us our sins: Asking for forgiveness of our sins reminds us of our failures and humanness and our deep need for a Savior.

As we forgive everyone who sins against us: It’s interesting that Jesus included this line in His prayer. Jesus got it – He knew that life is about relationships, hurt feelings, miscommunications. He knew that these ups and downs in relationships happen more than we wish, and there will always be a constant need to extend forgiveness to others.

And lead us not into temptation: We know from James 1:13 that God does not tempt us to sin. When we ask God that we would not be lead into temptation, we are again realizing that our mind is willing, but our bodies are weak (Mark 14:38). We are weak and have sinful desires, and Jesus tells us to pray that God would help our hearts be strong to fight against the temptations and trials that come our way, even deliver us through and from them.

How: Now that we know what we should pray, let’s look at what Jesus said about how we should pray. Jesus shares a story about a man who boldly asked his neighbor for 3 loaves of bread, and although it was midnight and the neighbor was irritated, he gave the man the bread anyway…because of his boldness in his asking.

Hebrews 11:6 says, And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him.
We are to come to God with bold hearts of faith knowing that He exists,He loves us, and He wants to help us.
This understanding goes back to the beginning of the Lord’s Prayer where we are to believe in God’s Kingdom come – His rule and authority over all things.
We are to have bold faith that we can pray to Him, make requests to Him, and accept His perfect answer and will.

So, as you continue to pray those scriptures for your family, yourself, and your circumstances, may you go into pray with an undivided heart, with respect and awe for God, with little by little requests, and with a boldness of faith in your heart.

Join us Friday for a wrap up reflection question over this week’s focus and a new yummy recipe from Heritage Schoolhouse!

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Praying Scripture for Your Children, Husband, and Yourself

Welcome! We are kicking off today with our new weekly focus format and we’re SO excited you are here to join us! Remember – this life and your purpose here is a marathon, not a sprint. Whatever season you are in, you are not going to achieve and become all you want to be over night. The key to a productive and successful journey through life is taking it all one step at a time. We’re going to do just that, one week at a time, together.

Let’s get started! This week we’re going to focus on Praying Scripture for Your Family and Yourself. 

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Hebrews 4:12 says that God’s Word is alive and powerful, sharper than a two-edged sword. When we read, reflect, and pray the Scriptures, we are coming into agreement with God and we understand more clearly about His thoughts.

Prayer: We all know we should pray for our family and friends and give praise to God. We often have the desire to pray more, but does this ever happen to you in prayer – you don’t know what to say…your mind starts to wander off into a completely different thought…you get too busy…you fall asleep? :)

Praying scripture:
Did you know that the 2 most important things you can do for yourself and your family is:
1. Read Your Bible
2. Pray.
This week we want to suggest a way to pray that involves both of these concepts of the Bible and prayer together. It’s praying scripture for specific people/circumstances in your life. Praying scripture gets your mind off of your own emotions and sometimes irrational feelings, and centers your thoughts instead of God’s truth.

Here’s how: Get some index cards and write a topic on individual cards. Examples are: your children’s names, your husband’s name, marriage, yourself, finances, work, gratitude, praise, ect. Then for each topic choose a specific scripture to pray for that person/situation. It will look something like this:

Caleb (son)

May Caleb be strong and courageous and not fear or be in dread, for it is you Lord, our God, who goes with him. You will never leave him or forsake him. (Deuteronomy 31:6)

Emma (daughter)

May Emma’s beauty and confidence come from her inner beauty, expressed in a quiet and gentle attitude which you consider precious. (1 Peter 3:3,4)

Matt (husband)

May Matt love me and our family the way Christ loves His church, taking care of us and our needs. (Ephesians 5:25-29)

Marriage

Above all, may I love Matt deeply, because love covers a multitude of sins. (1 Peter 4:8)

Katherine (myself)

For God has not given me a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline. (2 Timothy 1:7)

Gratitude 

I am thankful for every circumstance and moment in this day, because I know this is your will for me to be thankful for how you care for me. (1 Thessalonians 5:18)

Keep going with as many topics as you wish!

Next step: Find quiet moments in your day to pray these scriptures over the people and situations in your life. Take your index cards with you as you run errands, cook in the kitchen, ect. In between all your activities in your day, pick up a card and pray the scriptures. You’ll soon find the more you do this, the more your mind remembers these scriptures you’ve been praying and the words will be a comfort and guide to you throughout your day.

There are seasons in life when life is just hard. Sometimes you won’t feel like there’s any truth to what scripture says…but try your hardest to pray and read scripture anyway. Whether you feel God’s Words to be true or not they are still true and alive, active, and powerful. In these moments in life pray scripture in faith not in feeling.

There is power in praying scripture:

Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.
(James 5:16)

Not only will you see God’s answer to your prayers in your life over time, but you will see a transformation in your heart and thoughts the more and more you read, recite, and pray God’s truth.

Here are some morning and evening scriptural prayers for you. Feel free to use these or make your own.

Morning Prayer:

Thank you for this day, Lord. Guard my family and myself today, for we are devoted to you. Have mercy for the mistakes I will make today; bring joy to my heart. I will call to you when I run into trouble, for you love me. There is nothing that can compare to you; you alone are my God. Teach me your ways and help me walk in your truth. Give me an undivided heart. I praise your name, for your love for me is great. You are compassionate, gracious, and give me strength. You abound in love, comfort me, and help me. My trust is in you today. Amen.

(Psalm 86)

Evening Prayer:

You are my shepherd, I lie down content. Lead me to rest in green pastures, lead me beside quiet waters. Restore my soul. I fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff comfort me. Goodness and love are with me, and I will dwell in your house, Lord, forever. Amen.

(Psalm 23)

* What about you? Have you ever practiced praying scripture before? What scriptures are your favorites to pray?

Thank you so much for joining us today! Come back Wednesday where we will provide you will more resources for praying scripture, and offer you motivation to keep praying those scriptures. :)

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New Weekly Focus @ Cooking Up Faith

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Cooking Up Faith has existed for almost 5 years now!! Four years at a different domain, and 1 year here at http://www.cookingupfaith.org. The mission of Cooking Up Faith has always been the same - to encourage women in their roles as wife and mom, and in their personal relationship with God. 

We’re excited to announce a new direction for Cooking Up Faith – a weekly theme and focus to encourage, challenge, and motivate you to dig deeper into scripture and discover God’s will, and then apply it to your own life. This is how it will look:

Mondays – a post with that week’s theme and focus, with a devotion and scriptures to support

Wednesdays – a follow up post from Monday’s topic with more scriptures and encouragement to keep you motivated

Fridays – a wrap up reflection question with a yummy new recipe from Heritage Schoolhouse

 

Think of it as setting short term goals for yourself ~ a weekly goal ~ to improve your character, marriage, parenting, and relationship with God one small step at a time. The journey to improving yourself and the areas in your life is a marathon, not a sprint!

We will start September 15th!! Here are the themes for the month of September:

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Week of September 15  – Praying Scripture for Your Family and Yourself

Week of September 22 – Supporting Your Husband in a Positive Way

Week of September 29 – Being Still and Waiting on the Lord

We are so excited to start this new journey with you! We will see you HERE September 15h to get started. To get all new posts and updates, be sure to like our Facebook page, or subscribe to the blog (located on the left hand side of the blog). :)

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Texas Chili

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Mrs. H, from Heritage Schoolhouse, is here to share her Texas Chili recipe with us!

Texas Chili
6 servings

1 pound ground beef
1/4 cup chopped onion
1 can (15 ounces) crushed tomatoes
1 can (8 ounces) tomato sauce
1 can (15 ounces) hot chili beans
1 can (15 ounces) pinto beans, rinsed and drained
1 tablespoon chili powder
1 teaspoon cumin
1 teaspoon cayenne pepper
1/2 teaspoon crushed red pepper flakes
1/4 teaspoon garlic powder
1/4 teaspoon salt
1/4 teaspoon dried oregano
grated sharp cheddar cheese
sour cream

In a large saucepan, cook the beef and onion over medium heat; drain. Stir in tomatoes, tomato sauce, and beans. Add the seasonings. Bring to a boil. Reduce heat; cover and simmer for 30 minutes to 1 hour. Serve steaming hot with cheese and sour cream. Enjoy!

I also make this in the crock pot often. Cook beef and onions, place in crock pot and add other ingredients. Cook about four hours on low. 

You can find Mrs. H sharing stories from her farm, homemaking tips, and delicious recipes on her blog. You can follow Mrs H’s blog at Heritage Schoolhouse. Follow her on Facebook at Heritage Schoolhouse. 

Three Things Every Home Needs

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Labor Day weekend is a time when those who work with their hands take a break and rest. Nobody knows what it’s like to work and labor with their hands like a mother.

She dusts, she folds laundry. She hugs, she soaps up. She packs lunches, she cooks dinner. She pulls sheets up a little tighter around little shoulders, she ties shoes on little feet. She drives and then drives some more. She jots notes on her calendar so she won’t forget, she dials doctors and dentists and vets.

Yes, a mother’s hands are busy busy in her home. The wise woman builds her home.

As you build your home with the work of your hands, remember these three things that your home is longing for:

1. Wisdom ~ wisdom is having the knowledge and understanding of the right action to take in a given situation. According to Proverbs 2 wisdom will save you from wickedness, adultery, bring health to your body and nourishment to your bones, long life, honor, riches, pleasantness and peace. A wise mother loves her children, has concern for them, trains and guides them, provides and protects them. A wise wife is faithful and trustworthy to her husband. Your home needs wisdom, and to gain more wisdom? Read your Bible, soak in it’s words, and pray.

2. Love ~ love is the commitment to an imperfect person. Love means you will respect and honor another person unconditionally. Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and their children, (Titus 2:4) A home full of love is a warm and happy home, nourishing little self-esteems.

3. Grace ~grace is forgiveness and mercy. An understanding that people are not perfect, including mothers, husbands, and children. Every day every person in your family will make a mistake, including yourself. Your heart and your home need plenty of open space for grace. Forgive yourself. Forgive your husband. Forgive your children. People grow deeper and stronger through grace. Mercy triumphs judgement. (James 2:13)

So, which of these three ~ wisdom, love, or grace ~ do you think your home needs more of right now?

Take this day of rest to pray and reflect on where you can go deeper to make your home full of more wisdom, love, and grace. Each of these three virtues begins with taking the pressure off of yourself to be perfect and soaking in the wisdom, love, and grace from God’s Word and through prayer.

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Loving When it’s Difficult

“But I tell you:

Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven.”

Matthew 5:44

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Jesus called his disciples to move beyond just loving their family and friends. He instructed them to love all people, even their enemies as well. This is God’s character and by his disciples acting in this same way of loving, everyone would know they follow Jesus.

Look closely at these words that describe the magnitude of God’s love:
He (God) causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous.
(Matthew 5:45)
This kind of love cares for those who don’t care for you back. This kind of love protects and provides for those who aren’t grateful for the provision.
Is it fair? No.
But it is perfection – maintaining your good character despite another person’s character.

This kind of love, this depth of it, is the pinnacle of understanding God’s purpose for every person’s life - to express the very character of God. Love may be described as an unconditional commitment to an imperfect person. It means showing love in our actions and controlling our character, even if the other person doesn’t deserve our goodness.

When you love like this you show that you understand who God is and what He wants from you. Is it easy? No. Does it come naturally? No. But casting off your selfish desires and attitudes and soaking in God’s selfless character does bring peace and a closeness to God. You become like God Himself.

Paul endured some of the harshest treatment from others, but through it all, he maintained a good and righteous character. He said, To this very hour we go hungry and thirsty, we are in rags, we are brutally treated, we are homeless. We work hard with our own hands. When we are cursed, we bless; when we are persecuted, we endure it; when we are slandered, we answer kindly. Up to this moment we have become the scum of the earth, the refuse of the world. (1 Corinthians 4:12,13)

Does this mean we allow abuse from others and let them walk all over us? Not at all! One of the best ways of defending yourself against someone else is with confidence. Having the strength to remain calm and kind when others frustrate you is showing confidence. Refusing to gossip or get revenge when someone hurts you is showing confidence. Confidence in God’s instructions and confidence in yourself that you can be obedient.

Let’s look at another example of this kind of love confidence. This scripture is referring to Jesus: When they hurled their insults at him, he did not retaliate; when he suffered, he made no threats. Instead, he entrusted himself to him who judges justly. (1 Peter 2:23)

What difference would it make in your life to entrust yourself to him who judges justly? Meaning, how much load would be lifted from your shoulders if you handed all of the annoyances and irritations your holding about someone else over to God – the One who judges justly? Another person’s actions were never meant to be your responsibility to judge and hold them accountable. All your responsible for is maintaining faith and obedience in your character.

Challenge:

I will not talk negatively about people I don’t like

I will see people as God sees them instead of how I see them

I will show love by my actions of respect and graciousness to others, even if I don’t feel it

I will not judge others

I will focus on maintaining my good character, instead of focusing on another person’s character

Prayer: Father, it’s hard to love those who are difficult. It’s easy for me to see the negative instead of the positive sometimes. Change my heart and make it like yours. Change my thoughts so I see love instead of hate. I want to know the peace that comes from being like you instead of being my natural sinful self. Give me the strength and self-control to love like you.

Related Post: Staying Gentle with Your In-Laws

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Caramelized Onion and Roasted Red Pepper Pizza

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Mrs. H, from Heritage Schoolhouse is here to share her Caramelized Onion and Roasted Red Pepper Pizza with us!

Caramelized Onion and Roasted Red Pepper Pizza
5 servings

1 tablespoon olive oil
2 onions, halved and sliced
1/2 teaspoon salt
1 jar roasted red peppers, drained and coarsely chopped
2 tablespoons balsamic vinegar
5 flat breads
1/3 cup freshly grated parmesan cheese
1/4 cups loosely packed fresh basil leaves, cut in strips

Heat oil in skillet over medium heat. Add onions and salt. Cook, stiring occasionally, for 20 minutes or until onions are very tender and golden brown. Stir in peppers and vinegar. Preheat oven to 400°. Place flatbreads on baking sheet and top with the onion mixture, cheese and basil. Bake 10 minutes. Cut flatbreads into quarters to serve and enjoy!

You can find Mrs. H sharing stories from her farm, homemaking tips, and delicious recipes on her blog. You can follow Mrs H’s blog at Heritage Schoolhouse. Follow her on Facebook at Heritage Schoolhouse. 

A Back to School Devotion for Moms

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Children are starting school this month, and whether you home school, public school, or private school, you know that this is a new season for your family. A season of learning and growing for both your children and yourself! With this exciting new season, it can also bring difficulty. Regardless of how your child is schooled, there are struggles with self-doubt in children as they learn new academics and make friends, and the endless rush of homework and activities.

Mothers, be encouraged and strengthened in these words as your kids go back to school:
She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.
(Proverbs 31:25-27)

 

Challenge yourself to become this wise woman during this season! Be filled with confidence for the battles that will come your way this school year –  turn each struggle your child faces into a teachable moment. Celebrate your child’s accomplishments and growth and let them know how proud you are of them!

There are some very simple things you can do this school year to make it a great year: 

1. Listen…really listen to your children. Give them your full ears when they get home from school. Ask them questions to dig deeper into the conversation and to let them know you’re interested in what they have to say.

2. Pray. Pray for your children while they are at school. Pray for yourself and your marriage so you connect deeper to God, so He can fill you up with more of His love. You will feel more patient and full of joy when your kids get home from school.

3. Choose a scripture for the school year. Memorize it. Reflect on it. Recite it. Here is a great one: For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline. 2 Timothy 1:7

 

Even though your child may be away at school most of the day, you can still hold a very proactive role in your child’s day!
Listen to them when they come home, pray for them throughout the day, and focus on scripture for your children and your family.

 

Prayer: Father, this is a new season for my children! Please give them an awareness that you are with them while they are at school. Please guide them and direct them towards encouraging friends and great experiences. Bring out in them the spirit of power, love, and self-discipline that comes from you. Be with me and draw closer to me as I draw closer to you. Help grace and love to fill my heart and our home. Amen.

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